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O.k., you’re standing there all alone at a party and in the far corner of the room your boyfriend is talking to some groovy chick. She’s coming onto him and much to your dismay, he doesn’t seem to be bragging about all how happy he is in his relationship with you. In fact, he even seems to be encouraging and indulging the shameless slattern’s disgusting, desperate, gall-filled pleas for sexual attention. So you a) burst into tears and run from the room b) go up to him and drape yourself around his neck so she can’t miss the fact that you and him are “together” or c) stand there and repeatedly tap his shoulder with your finger going “Um honey, honey, honey, I have to talk to you … until he finally is forced to turn around and scream in your face “WHAT!”

Actually, none of the above are the right answers. Unfortunately, the minute you display jealousy, you convey neediness and insecurity and according to Jungian psychiatrist William Rock Penfield, people of both sexes find this extremely unattractive in a partner. What they really find attractive is something called “the unattainable.” That is why your boyfriend is flirting with the gorgeous interloper in the first place. He knows he belongs to you and therefore she becomes attractive because she is unattainable. Another reason we flip out, and become jealous is because we know we’ve already been “attained”. The person knows he already “has you” so there is nothing to chase… no thrill to the hunt… the cupid’s arrow has already met its mark and now you are about as sexually exciting as a carcass thrown in a burlap sack.

No,the best thing for you to do in such a situation, is to mirror his behaviour. Make yourself unattainable. Replace thoughts like “No, no, no ….please don’t do this to me.” and ” Please, please. Stop. Stop flirting with him!” to “Oh so you think you have this relationship in the bag do you…. while here’s me brushing my breasts up against your best friend’s arm and here’s me batting my eyelashes at that guy you hate and here’s me smiling and waving at you like nothing’s wrong … nothing at all!” Make like you’re the wild unpredicatable one –like what he’s doing doesn’t matter –like you could leave this party at any minute with his successor. Before you know it, he’ll be the one casting you the anxious looks, as you dirty dance with the cute guy you just met near the fridge. If he doesn’t, maybe you should consider leaving the party with the new guy. Or girl.

Because this mirroring trick works on both sexes. What doesn’t work is begging, pleading, crying and trying to blackmail the person into never doing it again, later, when you get home in bed. Who wants to be with a needy, whiny jealous person. What a turnoff!

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Dowsing is a method for accessing intuitive knowledge and information through the use of a pendulum. In dowsing, we ask questions of our Higher Self, the part of us that is pure spirit, and thus infinitely wise. Depending on how you program it, your pendulum will give you answers by swinging in certain directions to tell you “yes,” “no,” or “undecided.”

Dowsing is very clear to read. Unlike the tarot, which depends heavily on the interpretation of the reader, dowsing is a method that really doesn’t offer much room for interpretation. Yes means yes and no means no. And learning to dowse takes no time at all! As such, dowsing is an ideal place to start developing a sense for intuitive information.

Unfortunately, the very advantage to dowsing - the fact that it is so clear to read - is also what makes it somewhat limiting. We have to ask questions that can be answered with “yes” or “no.” However, with some experience, we can access a wealth of information within this limited medium.

The true advantage of dowsing is that it allows you to get a clear sense of your own intuitive knowledge. As you continue dowsing, you will over time start to receive the answers before the pendulum even swings. You will get a “yes” or “no” or “maybe” in whatever way your intuitive perception works. Some people hear the answers. Others develop a feel for the energetic quality of a “yes” or “no.” Others again see the words flash in their minds. For many, it is a combination of things. It really depends on whether you are best suited to receiving intuitive information through an auditory, visual or kinesthetic channel.

A pendulum allows you to get crystal clear answers through an external source so that you can develop a trust in the validity of the information. You know that you are not simply making up the answers! Before long, you will develop a keen sense of how your inner guidance system works. And, let’s face it, sometimes we are heavily invested in the answers to certain questions. Unless you are consciously moving your hand or arm, it is hard to misinterpret or influence the answers you get from your pendulum.

The pendulum is the external starting point. As you use it more and more, your focus will shift towards your internal receptors for intuitive information. However, as a good place to start, nothing beats learning to dowse!

All answers from your pendulum really come from your superconscious - from your Higher Self. Your Higher Self is your Soul self. It is the ancient, infinitely wise part of you that was directly created from Source. Your Higher Self is not limited to this present incarnation. It has access to all your lifetimes, past, present and future. It spans dimensions, time and space. Your Higher Self is pure Spirit. This is where the information really comes from.

When you dowse, your Higher Self will connect to your subconscious. This is what actually creates the movement of the pendulum. Consciously, you will not be aware of creating any movement in the pendulum whatsoever. It really is a wonderful thing to watch your pendulum swinging of its own accord! You would swear that you are holding your hand absolutely still, but in truth, your subconscious is creating the subtle movements that create the swing of the pendulum.

This link between your Higher Self and your subconscious is not one you need to concern yourself with. In fact, it is better to leave it alone - just know that your superconscious is linking to your subconscious in order to send clear information to your conscious self via the pendulum. Dowsing beautifully integrates the trinity of your subconscious, conscious and superconscious so that the information that is generated is perceived by your whole being.

Once you’ve used your pendulum for a while, you will start to know whether a “yes” or “no” is coming before the pendulum even really gets going. Pay close attention to how you perceive these answers internally. Do they have a special “feel” to them? Do words flash into your brain? Do you hear words? Or do you see answers in front of you? Start tuning in to your special way of receiving intuitive information internally.

One day, you will probably suddenly get an answer that is far more informative than yes or no. I will never forget the day when I was just looking for a yes or no - and my client’s entire soul story popped into my head. As you start flexing your intuitive muscle, you will start receiving more information. Pretty soon, information will come to you freely. You can then still use your pendulum to confirm that your perceived answer or information is indeed correct.

Everyone is intuitive. The more you practice, the more your intuition will be available to you. Dowsing with a pendulum is a wonderful way of unlocking your intuitive gifts.

Andrea Hess is an Intuitive Consultant who works with spiritual seekers who want to discover their soul’s path and purpose for this lifetime. Visit her website at http://www.andreahess.com to find out more about her intuitive readings, or receive a free Sample reading.

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Have you ever been curious about your future? Have you ever called a phone psychic to get some answers?

If you wonder how “psychics” work, read on. This article is for you.

Most “psychics” are plain scammers. They use cold reading to make calculated guess about the sitters. Cold reading is an interactive psychological technique which extracts information from a person through verbal and non verbal cues. More often than not, psychics utilize known psychology techniques that can apply to almost anyone. An example would be claiming the sitter is cursed and he or she could lift that curse for a fee, because most people visit a psychic when they are down and depressed, “being cursed” is a quick, convenient reason to blame. Paying the fee to lift the curse would be the quickest solution to their complicated life problems.

There seems to be several common factors in psychic readings. The psychic usually:

* Skillfully extracts information from non verbal cues such as breathing patterns, voice, dress, skin color, and body language.

* Makes statements that seem to give information when they are actually out to fish for it. E.g. Prompts feedback from sitters by saying “I see a man in uniform, why would that be?”

* Feeds back to the subject what the latter wants to hear

* Makes general “Barnum statements” such as “You are worrisome on the outside but insecure on the inside.”

The sitter of the reading is the key to a ’successful’ reading. The sitter’s willingness to connect vague ‘clues’ came up by the psychic will often decide how successful the reading is. Many sitters who try to contact their deceased loved ones are very motivated in the first place, and will take the psychic’s message as a sign that he or she has made contact with the other side. That is why psychics subtly encourage cooperation before and during the reading. Once the psychic gains the trusts of the sitter, the latter usually actively supply information and clarifications.

Although facial expressions and body languages could mean differently to people from different cultural backgrounds, many psychologists believe that certain facial and body expressions are universal to the mankind.

How to tell dominance: People who dominates have a tenancy to stand up with an erected body, speaks slowly and rarely, and look people in their eyes for an extended period of time. Because of the demonstrated link between testosterone and aggression, people with square jaws ( testosterone induced feature) are thought as more domineering and aggressive.

How to tell submissiveness: Submissive people touches themselves a lot when they are confronted with a difficult situation. This is because human have an inborn mechanism acquired very early on in life to link physical touching with comfort and safety.

Most important to keep in mind: Real, powerful psychics don’t advertise on the back of a supermarket magazine and do readings for $1.99 per minute.

Jamie Kepcher is the Self Discovery Editor at www.alittlebreak.com, a home and self help community.

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