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O.k., you’re standing there all alone at a party and in the far corner of the room your boyfriend is talking to some groovy chick. She’s coming onto him and much to your dismay, he doesn’t seem to be bragging about all how happy he is in his relationship with you. In fact, he even seems to be encouraging and indulging the shameless slattern’s disgusting, desperate, gall-filled pleas for sexual attention. So you a) burst into tears and run from the room b) go up to him and drape yourself around his neck so she can’t miss the fact that you and him are “together” or c) stand there and repeatedly tap his shoulder with your finger going “Um honey, honey, honey, I have to talk to you … until he finally is forced to turn around and scream in your face “WHAT!”

Actually, none of the above are the right answers. Unfortunately, the minute you display jealousy, you convey neediness and insecurity and according to Jungian psychiatrist William Rock Penfield, people of both sexes find this extremely unattractive in a partner. What they really find attractive is something called “the unattainable.” That is why your boyfriend is flirting with the gorgeous interloper in the first place. He knows he belongs to you and therefore she becomes attractive because she is unattainable. Another reason we flip out, and become jealous is because we know we’ve already been “attained”. The person knows he already “has you” so there is nothing to chase… no thrill to the hunt… the cupid’s arrow has already met its mark and now you are about as sexually exciting as a carcass thrown in a burlap sack.

No,the best thing for you to do in such a situation, is to mirror his behaviour. Make yourself unattainable. Replace thoughts like “No, no, no ….please don’t do this to me.” and ” Please, please. Stop. Stop flirting with him!” to “Oh so you think you have this relationship in the bag do you…. while here’s me brushing my breasts up against your best friend’s arm and here’s me batting my eyelashes at that guy you hate and here’s me smiling and waving at you like nothing’s wrong … nothing at all!” Make like you’re the wild unpredicatable one –like what he’s doing doesn’t matter –like you could leave this party at any minute with his successor. Before you know it, he’ll be the one casting you the anxious looks, as you dirty dance with the cute guy you just met near the fridge. If he doesn’t, maybe you should consider leaving the party with the new guy. Or girl.

Because this mirroring trick works on both sexes. What doesn’t work is begging, pleading, crying and trying to blackmail the person into never doing it again, later, when you get home in bed. Who wants to be with a needy, whiny jealous person. What a turnoff!

Samantha Steven’s articles have been published in many high-standing newspapers and she has published several books. If you wish to buy Samantha’s books about metaphysics click here
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You can meet Samantha Stevens at http://www.psychicrealm.com where she works as a professional psychic. You can also read more of her articles at http://www.newagenotebook.com

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Sometimes, after a relationship has ended, many of us have problems letting go. A lot of my clients often complain of feeling haunted or even possessed by the dearly departed (who probably isn’t even thinking of you at all and is busy happily running away with his or her new partner.) It’s like the person has left an indelible imprint upon your heart and many of us feel that we can’t go on until the ex returns. The energy of the ex might be manifesting itself in all sorts of ways — in what you perceive to be little omens or reminders that occur in every day life (such as a phrase or song lyric) or even as a visitor in your dreams.

There are all kinds of cures for this phenomenon, (everything from burning bundles of sage to clear the room of the ex’s vibe to throwing out every single reminder of him or her, including the bed.) Yet before you ditch the Sealy Posturepedic, I suggest you try this little exercise called “Cutting The Cord.”

The idea behind this is that whenever we connect to someone we connect to him or her at the point of our solar plexus, the area just below your diaphragm. When we first meet someone and fall in love, we spend a lot of time building up this energy which lightworkers say looks like a rope of light that connects two people. However, even after one person disappears, the rope can still remain. Often, the person who is left behind spends a lot of time fortifying that rope with his or her own psychic energy in an attempt to bring the person back. The ex can compare to a psychic vampire, who is gleefully sucking back the energy that the dumped person is sending them. It doesn’t even matter if you are sending them bad thoughts or resentment. That energy is often translated to them in the purest form of astral energy — and they use it to transmute and feed their new relationship. So in order to prevent yourself being sucked dry by the psychic vampire, oops I mean the ex, I suggest you try this: Lie down on the bed, breathe deeply and become as relaxed as you can. Now picture the other person and the cord of light that you created when you thought the both of you would be connected for all eternity. Visualize that cord as best you can and examine it.

How thick is it? What colour is it? What is it made of? Now choose your weapon. What will you use to cut this cord? Do you need a knife or is the connection so strong that it can be broken only by hacking at it with a machete? If a machete doesn’t work, try a buzz saw. My favourite is a huge pair of golden scissors. Now, in your mind’s eye, snip, hack chop, sever … do whatever you have to do to cut the cord. Picture the other person floating away from you like a helium balloon let loose in the sky … and smile and wave “bye bye!” Oddly, one of the side benefits (or drawbacks depending on how you look at it) is that the other person senses the detachment. Like a greedy psychic vampire, they will come back to see where their source of energy has gone. So not only does this exercise your astral health, but it often brings the ex back. That is, if you even want them back at all.

Samantha Steven’s articles have been published in many high-standing newspapers and she has published several books. If you wish to buy Samantha’s books about metaphysics click here
http://www.insomniacpress.com/author.php?id=110
You can meet Samantha Stevens at http://www.psychicrealm.com where she works as a professional psychic. You can also read more of her articles at http://www.newagenotebook.com

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